When you experience something negative for the first time, it doesn’t lead to a judgment. When it happens again some time later, your judgment is triggered. When it happens a third time, your judgment registers it as a pattern for possible future events.
When you sense you’re about to experience something similar again, your judgment immediately draws on your memory and tells you to fight or flee. It doesn’t matter how you react in the end. You are simply following your judgment.
Interestingly, the more repetitive experiences we have in life, the more judgmental we become. And the more judgmental we become, the more we treat new experiences as if they were the same as old ones, even when they are nowhere near what we went through before. This isn’t our fault. We are misled by judgments that stem from repeated experiences.
The solution is to recognize that each experience is unique, even when it looks the same as a past one, and to never let our past experiences cloud our judgment.